refactor(replication): use replication origin to track durable progress

[meskill]

fixes #1698

Use replications origins on destination shards to track durable lsn on it instead of inferring it from flushed wal and manual lsn tracking.

The new flow:

1. on replication start the origins are created from every source to every destination shards with the name calculated from replication slot
2. the destination transactions are marked with source lsn before commit
3. separate thread runs the origin progress check and the last flushed source lsn
4. the math calculates minimum of all destination shards and it's flushed source lsn and marks it as confirmed

[codecov]

Codecov Report

❌ Patch coverage is 99.51691% with 6 lines in your changes missing coverage. Please review.

Files with missing lines	Patch %	Lines
...eplication/logical/publisher/replication_stream.rs	97.22%	1 Missing ⚠️
...rc/backend/replication/logical/resharding_state.rs	99.32%	1 Missing ⚠️
...backend/replication/logical/subscriber/pipeline.rs	99.57%	1 Missing ⚠️
...plication/logical/subscriber/replication_origin.rs	99.75%	1 Missing ⚠️
...c/backend/replication/logical/subscriber/stream.rs	98.83%	1 Missing ⚠️
pgdog/src/util/retry.rs	98.11%	1 Missing ⚠️

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[levkk]

🚀 🚀 super cool

[meskill]

Bench compare to make sure it's not worse, against latest main