chore: Revert "feat: support modern useEffectEvent"

[snowystinger]

Reverts #9095

In testing, we found that the real useEffectEvent is causing issues. We are too close to release to fix it this time. Will look into it for next one.

Will see how #9379 does.

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## API Changes

@react-aria/utils

/@react-aria/utils:useEffectEvent

 useEffectEvent <T extends Function> {
-  fn: T
+  fn?: T
   returnVal: undefined
 }

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